Elitism

Elysia is not elitist. I am quite sure of that. That does not mean she does not appreciate recognition and attention. I think this is what the current hang-up in our home is about. A few weekends ago she took a test for an “enrichment” program for her secondary education in the Mount Waverley Secondary College next year. This program would have extra curriculum to stretch students more, and maybe accelerate their learning process. When we took her to the school for the test we met with many other expectant parents. Over 120 students took part in it and only about 50 would be selected for the next stage.

She was selected for the next stage, which was an interview. That took place yesterday. I took her there and attended the interview together with her. She did all of the answering while I sat next to her. She appeared to be a ball of nerves but was able to sufficiently control the frayed ends to answer the questions properly. It was shorter than I had expected. Her portfolio of work (all interviewees were asked to bring one) was also smaller than some of the other candidates’.

The last 2 points made me worry. I now worry that this may turn out to be a first big disappointment in her life. We have been making sure there is a good balanced approach to this. We have been telling her that even if she doesn’t get into this program she could still excel in secondary school. Conversely we also told her that even if she does get in, it would take hard and consistent work if she were to do well – no different from if she is not inside this group. I think she agrees with that. She also knows that there is nothing like experiencing the real thing. If she doesn’t make it she will be disappointed. We will have to be there for her, and continue that assurance and support. As would parents of the other candidates who don’t make it into the program. Theresa was able to ascertain that only about 25 of the 50 would go on to make it. So there’s a 50:50 chance.

To be sure I don’t think the intention is to create a sense of elitism. It is simply intended to identify and encourage students who are capable of more, and push them to realise their potentials.

The effect however, would be an elitist group. Hopefully that would not result in victimisation in the school compound on the one hand or pride and elitism on the other. Hopefully this would not create a us versus them mentality. It doesn’t matter if Elysia is in or out of this group – this schism should not be there.

If she does get in, I hope she retains her friendship with her present friends one way or the other. She often tells us one reason she has been happy in Melbourne is her friends. I hope that does not change. That would be my prayer for her from now on.