Delusion Over Pain Sets In


So there’s this poem making the rounds. This poem about our pretensions to developed world status. You know, for many of us, living in Malaysia has serious drawbacks in terms of having third world mentality rub off on us. If we re-settle in a developed world, we must consciously and deliberately do stuff in ways which are correct, accurate, efficient and generally-works with minimum fuss. I struggled, and continue to make deliberate efforts to find my groove, because 40 years of living in a third world context meant it has rubbed off quite a bit. To cap it off, we were made to believe we had developed world systems, so we think we are ok. But we are not, and it hurts to experience the difference.

Kiddo’s Birthday Weekend


Kiddo turned 11 last Thursday. On the actual day, we stayed home and baked a cake with her. Yeap – all 3 of us baked a cake together, with not too disastrous results. Went out to an Italian restaurant with some aunts/uncles/cousins, on Friday night. Food was quite good, prices were very good, but ambience was…ziltch. Very pleasant waitress though. One of the uncles chatted her up (not very good example for the kids, but I wasnt complaining) and found out she goes to Deakin Uni – nearby. Adjourned to that uncle’s house for drinks after. Am really glad wifey knows her way around very well now, so handed the driving duties to her for that night.

On Saturday, went out and got her her prezzie – a mobile phone. She opted for the Nokia 3105, on the Orange pre-paid plan. She is thrilled with it, so I guess all in all it was a good birthday for her, though expensive for us! Also took her to St Kilda beach, and took a long walk including the Fitzroy Road restaurants – passed the “Whisk” restaurant, Melbourne’s contender in Channel 7’s “My Restaurant Rules” program (one of our favourites).

On Sunday night, watched Man Utd demolish the Barcodes 4-1. So it was a great weekend!

No wonder today’s Mondayitis was exceptionally bad…

“So, I commend the enjoyment of life.” (From the Bible – really. Eccl 8:15)

In this corner – systems that works. In that corner – Msia


This nice little suburban firm is different to some other law firms I have dealt with, Aussie context notwithstanding. The principal is intense, but can lighten up in a very fun way. He took us all (lawyers) out to lunch today, some Vietnamese joint (great food but man, was I thirsty for hours after that – cook must have been shoveling msg by the truckloads). No Friday drinks either, although from the conversations over lunch and other times, I don’t think there are any teetotalers around. Maybe it’s just a small suburban firm thing-Friday drinks was more of a city firm thing, I guess. Maybe I’m wrong. There’s this largish firm here in the suburbs, which may have that sort of thing. I’ve heard people deriding them though – something to the effect that they have grown too large and wanted only large corporate work. Smaller suburban commercial work doesn’t have priority anymore, it seems. Heck even in my place, larger corporate entities always get priority, simply because they pay larger fees! It’s business after all, suburb or otherwise. Especially a suburban firm with a principal who is a quarter Scots. Anyway, it’s been only 3 months since my family and I arrived. I may only be experiencing the trunk of the elephant now. The journey is still laid out in front of us, for us to explore and experience.

What do I like about working here so far? Things work so much better here. Examples: searches take – wait for this – 5 minutes. Imagine – no search clerks to cajole or threaten. I get my land or company search results within minutes online (I can almost hear Malaysian lawyers swearing). One can also search status of court proceedings online, within minutes. Snail mail is also fast by Malaysian standards. One usually receives a posted letter within 1-2 days. And, authorities are accessible – I have had authorities returning my calls within half hour. And when they say they need time to check and revert, it usually means they revert within the same day! Any written correspondence can be expected within 1 week. So, as far as the system goes, it works like a charm. Even then, the Law Institute and other such bodies are still working away to try and make it work even more. Here they don’t wait for things to break down before acting. I remember Shah Alam Courts being totally unworkable. Ditto the land office. I also remember extracting a couple of titles from the land office in Wilayah – took us 3-4 weeks and some inside connection (included taking care of some people), and I had to sit in on the officers every single day for about 2 weeks, before finally getting them out. I may have left the comfort of relatively senior positions in large organizations to practice as a junior person in a suburban firm, but the pains of dealing with the authorities is so reduced, it compensates somewhat. Sure, we pay taxes that hurt extremely badly, but the money is spent on things that benefit all people (like public service systems that work well). We don’t get our tax money going to mosques, for example.

“So, I commend the enjoyment of life.” (From the Bible – really. Eccl 8:15)

PM is here


Saw the PM on TV today, with John Howard. He looked older and more tired than when I last saw him on TV, back in Dec 04 my last few days in Msia. He must be battling hard, maybe against his rivals in UMNO, maybe against corrupt members of his government, maybe against members of his family. One thing for sure, hats off to a battler – always. I wonder what the latest stories are circling KL, and all the warongs and mamak stalls, pubs and restaurants, all over the country. I hope it is more than the exploits of some EPL teams in England or Europe. I hope it is more than the latest movies or Jacko’s trial. I hope the stories making the rounds in KL and across Malaysia is – would Malaysia ever be more equitable, more efficient, and cleaner, ie less corrupt. I have been wondering about this since seeing the PM on TV this morning. It’s time for me to start praying, I guess. For Pak Lah, for Msia.

“So, I commend the enjoyment of life.” (From the Bible – really. Eccl 8:15)

Family – WOW!!


In Malaysia, I used to leave home before 6am everyday (weekend excepted, of course). Got home only around 9pm. Saw very little of my kid in those days. Now, I leave home around 8.15am, and am home by 6.30pm. I spend loads of time doing stuff with my daughter. From sitting on the sofa and have an Indonesian maid fetch her stuff, she now prepares dinner together with mom and dad, do the dishes after that with mom and dad, does her own bed, helps with the laundry, takes out the garbage…

If for nothing else, this move Down Under has helped us so much as a family, doing simple things together and being together so much. Mundane maybe, but WOW, so precious… LOVING IT!

“So, I commend the enjoyment of life.” (From the Bible – really. Eccl 8:15)

New Life


Havent had any entries for many months now – have taken time off to settle down, now that we have “relocated” to Melbourne, Australia. Yes, my family and I decided to take that plunge, to uproot and migrate Down Under. Very painful – it has taken me all these months before I am sufficiently settled to blog again. I hope I blog a little more after this.

Anyway, left Msia in Oct 04, returned for a month in Dec 04 and back again in Melb since Jan 05. Daughter happy in new school near home, wifey working in city with large retailer as an auditor, and I’m in a smallish law firm, enmeshed in suburban commercial life. Life is evolving into a new pattern, with life revolving around family almost exclusively. No more out drinking with friends, etc. No more late nights watching EPL or ECL games. Funny how I get to Oz and actually drink a fractionof the beer I used to drink in Msia, when the stuff costs maybe a third of what it does in Msia!

Will blog in more details some other time…

“So, I commend the enjoyment of life.” (From the Bible – really. Eccl 8:15)