I know it was you, Fredo.
You broke my heart. You broke my heart
– Michale Corleone (The Godfather II)
I remember wanting a lawyer to be transferred to my team. She would have the same pay, work in the same office, do similar type of work, but only reporting to a different partner.
Something as benign as that transfer had to start by a chat to her. Her then boss and I had to take turns to chat to her, before we did anything else.
We talked to her about what we had in mind, and we invited her to let us know what she thought about what we had in mind.
She was receptive (I wasn’t a bad boss…) and then we started planning the move.
Other than courtesy and decency it was also something one does if the action was going to affect a person, one would have thought.
It wasn’t something you would have thought necessary to point out to anyone calling himself and herself a leader but then again it has been a bit of a circus.