Loose Ends

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From: Ian Teh <ianteh08@gmail.com>
Date: Fri, Nov 23, 2012 at 8:53 AM
Subject: Re: Catching up
Cc:  <  >, <  >

Tham Fuan

Form and process remain on the periphery at best. The essence appears to be still missing. Perhaps whoever relayed to you information about my leaving LifeGate can fill you in about what I mean but really, other than it shouldn’t have been necessary, it will also no longer have any consequence especially given your recent most email.

I also don’t understand what releasing forgiveness means. You either forgive someone or you don’t. “Releasing” forgiveness doesn’t add anything other than layer up with new age type of lingo. Or maybe there is a new version of bible translation which now requires Christians to release forgiveness to each other instead of just forgiving each other. In any event, forgiveness cannot be relevant without proper context.

There is plenty to talk about but I have no desire to revisit any of these things any more. When I said to you during our dinner meeting that I have moved on, I meant it in every sense.


On Thu, Nov 22, 2012 at 1:35 PM, thamfuan <   > wrote:

Hi Ian,

Thank you for the prompt reply.

We are aware of your attendance at Edge Church the past couple of weeks. The purpose of my intended visit, which I have been thinking the last couple of weeks, was to continue to heal the relationship rift, which we at least try to resolve in our last outing together. Somehow, I felt it didn’t go as well as it should. Perhaps we can meet up another time however things pan out, sooner rather than later.

Ian, I really want to say sorry for bursting out in frustration in one of the Board meetings about you asking me to lead at your convenience. Please forgive me for my insensitivity and carelessness. Your pain and hurt no doubt would have affected the rest in the family, and for that I want to say sorry to Theresa as well.

There are probably other things I may have done and said which have hurt you, and for those things I ask that you release your forgiveness as well. In time, I pray and hope that our friendship can achieve a certain degree of normalcy.

By the way, with the way things are going, I understand your declination, and I don’t see that as being rude. Sincerely and genuinely, I have been and will continue to pray for you and your family for some time to come.

Take care.


On Thu, Nov 22, 2012 at 11:27 AM, Ian Teh <  > wrote:

Tham Fuan
I’m not sure if you noticed, but I have not been in church these past couple of Sundays. This is because I have decided to move on. I was at the Edge Church in Doncaster on those Sundays and I am likely to continue attending there for a little while to see how it works out.

On that note, I prefer to decline your visit. I hope that is not being rude on my part but just in line with the way things have panned out (and perhaps continue to pan out).

Ian Teh
Legal Counsel
L19 Casselden
T: 03 9200 4897
M: 0477 700 602
On 22/11/2012, at 10:26 AM, thamfuan <  > wrote:

> Hi Ian & Theresa,
> Suanchoo and I would like to drop in at your place for a catch-up Tuesday evening next week. Is that a possibility? Or would you prefer to meet somewhere else?
> Thank you.
> thamfuan